I admit I’m broken before diving in. I have a wonderful family; wife and 3 beautiful children and yet I always cheat. I have been married for over 10 years and have been cheating since day 1. While I know I’ll never win any popularity contests by admitting it, what has evolved over the past ten years is that I’ve mastered the subject. the art of deception. Not only have I managed to find and pick up some very beautiful women, but I’ve also managed to get away with it.
If you’re wondering why I cheat when everything is so perfect at home, it’s just for attention. And for all you married men out there, here’s one thing you’re going to learn, when you have kids, your wife’s focus is on them and less on you.
Although most married men are mature enough to accept this, I have a hard time dealing with it. I need this attention from someone, I crave it. And by cheating, during my work, for the women I cheat on, I am the center of their world, and that trumps any other feeling I might have. This is euphoria.
Cheating is not something I can brag about. I mean, come to think of it, I can’t tell my friends because I’m afraid it will ever come out. It’s a lonely existence and it takes every fiber of my being to keep quiet and not brag about it. Can you imagine the scenario, I confide in a friend, he secretly tells his wife, she secretly tells her hairdresser, and the Chinese whispers continue to my wife.
The risk ratio is very high. But after years of cheating, running away, and having the most wonderful adventures, I needed a way out.
And so I created a blog called The Cheater’s Handbook. I honestly didn’t think for a second that anyone would read it. But he contacted me to write only 2 articles in the country newspaper. Then a month later a bigger newspaper approached me to write for them. They called me “Hitch For Cheaters”.
Just as I was getting ready for publication, I had a lot of correspondence with the Editors, and one of them said:
“I’m not sure what impresses me more, the fact that you often successfully cheat or that you have a system for getting away with it. Have you ever considered becoming a dating coach of sorts for men?
Of course, I wasn’t there at the time. I have several businesses and would not mind offering this as a service. However, a big part of my blog wasn’t just about telling me how to find women or what the best dating sites are for business – NO! It was more about being careful, how to maintain a happy home life and never let the two worlds merge. In many ways, I was practicing without actually knowing it.
There are some really famous websites out there like Ashley Madison which has over 60 million users. What does that tell you? It tells us that at least 60 million people (men and women) are interested, have cheated once, or actively cheat on a regular basis. This number tells me how long it lasts. Compared to 10-15 years ago, the rate of separations and divorces today has never been higher.
Maybe discreet cheating is the answer to a happier marriage. I can tell you first hand that for me it certainly did.